Smeets on the Couch

[Bill Holloway <bi...@gmail.com>]

A brief psychoanalysis --

It is quite likely that, like most trolls, "Rob Smeets" is suffering from
what is known as the "abused child syndrome."  This behavior arises from an
insidious form of parental neglect of the subject as a young child, where
the only attention the child receives from the parents is negative
attention, usually to correct behavior -- attention such as "stop hitting
your brother", "be quiet", "sit down", etc.  The parents fail to grant the
child any substantive positive, praising attention for good behavior.  Since
we all need attention from our parents, the child in this situation quickly
learns to misbehave to garner parental attention of any kind.  Because we
all base our adult relationships with peers and colleagues on relationship
skills learned as a child, the adult abused-child engages in
socially-unacceptable behavior and, sadly, thrives on the negative reactions
of its peers.

If this has escalated into a full-blown personality disorder for Mr.
"Smeets," and I suspect that it has, he has really very little hope.  The
common wisdom is that personality disorders stay with the subject for life,
regardless of treatment.  About the only hope "Smeets" has is for his peers
and colleagues to stop reinforcing the his misbehaviors by responding to
them negatively.  In this way, it is hoped that he might learn to pursue an
alternate course for attention, namely socially-acceptable, positive
behavior.

In other words, STOP RESPONDING TO SMEET'S FRICKING POSTS.  JUST STOP.
Ignore him.  Stop doing what he wants you to do and he'll either throw
tantrums and get kicked off or he'll go away.  Frankly I don't know why
Howard hasn't at least moderated him by now.

That'll be $120, please.

Bill H., Bachelor of Shenanigans, Master of Sh*t, Piled Higher and Deeper

Re: Smeets on the Couch

[Howard Lewis Ship <hl...@gmail.com>]

Actually, I did kick him off the list (he then went paranoid, accusing
me of "blocking his domain") but we seem to be having a ripple effect
as new folks pick up the old threads.

On Wed, May 21, 2008 at 1:09 AM, Bill Holloway <bi...@gmail.com> wrote:
> A brief psychoanalysis --
>
> It is quite likely that, like most trolls, "Rob Smeets" is suffering from
> what is known as the "abused child syndrome."  This behavior arises from an
> insidious form of parental neglect of the subject as a young child, where
> the only attention the child receives from the parents is negative
> attention, usually to correct behavior -- attention such as "stop hitting
> your brother", "be quiet", "sit down", etc.  The parents fail to grant the
> child any substantive positive, praising attention for good behavior.  Since
> we all need attention from our parents, the child in this situation quickly
> learns to misbehave to garner parental attention of any kind.  Because we
> all base our adult relationships with peers and colleagues on relationship
> skills learned as a child, the adult abused-child engages in
> socially-unacceptable behavior and, sadly, thrives on the negative reactions
> of its peers.
>
> If this has escalated into a full-blown personality disorder for Mr.
> "Smeets," and I suspect that it has, he has really very little hope.  The
> common wisdom is that personality disorders stay with the subject for life,
> regardless of treatment.  About the only hope "Smeets" has is for his peers
> and colleagues to stop reinforcing the his misbehaviors by responding to
> them negatively.  In this way, it is hoped that he might learn to pursue an
> alternate course for attention, namely socially-acceptable, positive
> behavior.
>
> In other words, STOP RESPONDING TO SMEET'S FRICKING POSTS.  JUST STOP.
> Ignore him.  Stop doing what he wants you to do and he'll either throw
> tantrums and get kicked off or he'll go away.  Frankly I don't know why
> Howard hasn't at least moderated him by now.
>
> That'll be $120, please.
>
> Bill H., Bachelor of Shenanigans, Master of Sh*t, Piled Higher and Deeper
>



-- 
Howard M. Lewis Ship

Creator Apache Tapestry and Apache HiveMind

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